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nike ad.

Posted in Life in general with tags , , on Sunday 25 July 2010 by amanda

I’m not quite sure what I think of this.  Very mixed about it for sure.  Thoughts?


sense of self

Posted in Life in general with tags , , on Tuesday 20 July 2010 by amanda

There is this fantastic new post up at Below the Belt, called Boy or girl? I think neither. It reminds me a little of a few other queer individuals that I know who have struggled, and are still struggling, with society’s binary view of sex and gender.  I don’t have a lot of commentary on the piece, I just wanted to promote it because I think it’s awesome to see that there are spaces, communities and individuals who 1) are ABLE to defy binary spaces, and 2) support people who are queer and not cis-gendered, despite all of the hurdles and injuries that stand in the way.

Apparently Hillary couldn’t be a good leader until she got all emotional

Posted in Life in general on Tuesday 4 May 2010 by amanda

This article from the Washington Post really pissed me off.  

“Although she had that driven, strong-willed, focused side, she also had a human side, a capacity to be vulnerable with others. In New Hampshire, this other expression of Hillary enabled her to truly connect with the audience, which was made up primarily of women.

Whether this emotional moment was due to extreme fatigue from the grueling campaign schedule as some have suggested, or whether Hillary simply revealed her heartfelt feelings about her commitment to making this country a better place, her personal reaction created a new perception of her among women throughout the country. Suddenly, they saw that inside this tough-as-nails political candidate was a real person with the same vulnerabilities that they had. Soon after the New Hampshire incident, polls indicated that Hillary had gained a majority of the women’s vote, primarily because women could now identify with her more than they could with the other candidates.

When Hillary allowed herself to be vulnerable and express her true emotions, people could connect with her, which led to her increased popularity in the polls.”

I read this, and the rest of the article, and think to myself that the lesson here is that women aren’t supposed to be tough, badass, or kick ass.  We’re supposed to lead, but emotionally, connecting with our feeeeeelings, and making sure that other women identify with us.  Because we are SO FUCKING brainwashed to think that when other women are hardasses or committed to their jobs or good leaders or don’t cry all the damn time or don’t constantly talk about their kids or their husbands jobs or GODFORBID don’t want kids or a husband or don’t wear heels or makeup or their hair just so or work-out-all-the-time-but-still-eat-pizza or don’t think it’s funny when assholes like Rush Limbaugh and the Republican party make jokes about Hillary Clinton as a “nutcracker” and sell a product of that name, then well.  Those kinds of women just aren’t good women.

back? maybe.

Posted in Life in general on Monday 12 April 2010 by amanda

I realize that it’s been nearly a year since I wrote on this blog.  I’m not sure if I’m back. It’s been a long, busy and crazy year.  I’ve had a lot of ups and downs.  I’m unsure how much I want to be sharing, identified, on a blog at this point.  I think I’m set to tentatively give it a try and at least see where I end up.

watermelon and hiccups

Posted in Life in general with tags , , , , , on Sunday 10 May 2009 by amanda

Kieran tried watermelon for the first time today, and loves it 🙂  of course he does…both his daddy and I love it!  he basically had no choice.  

Liam also gets the hiccups at LEAST as often as Kieran did as a newborn, which is to say daily at a minimum.  Poor kid – they wake him up, but don’t bug him too much as long as he’s being held.

Also, forgot to post this before, but Liam is STRONG.  Newborns are NOT supposed to be able to lift their heads, but as soon as he was born and put on my chest in the labor room, he lifted his head up.  Ola and I were both like…”that’s not right!”  He’s already contorting his little body around like a baby much older.  It’s crazy.  We’re supposed to be in that stage where you could leave him on the changing table if you wanted to, but nooooo we have to watch him already.  🙂

We went to the park today for Mama’s Day, which was awesome.  We chased Kieran around and held Liam…it was breezy, sunny, and perfect 🙂

Oh, and I have my Crim Law final tomorrow.  Augh!

off the map

Posted in Life in general with tags , , on Saturday 18 April 2009 by amanda

i’ve been pretty much off the map lately, and that’s not likely to change.  I’m trying to finish up with school (I’m writing this as I take a quick break from Civ Pro outlining), hoping that I’ll get my finals done before the baby comes, struggling to spend time with Ola and Kieran, and wishing that the apartment would get itself straightened out so I don’t have to worry about it! 🙂  I’ve also had some unexpected extra doc appointments (no worries, just extra time and energy there…) which have taken up some of the little free time I’ve been banking on to prepare for finals.  At least I’m done withe legal rhetoric, which is a huge relief, although I miss my class. (yeah, i see them at lecture but it’s not the same). 

so – we’re all fine here, and have pretty much no life outside of our immediate issues (baby, work, school).  

okay, back to work!

Iowa allows same-sex marriage!!!

Posted in Life in general with tags , , , on Friday 3 April 2009 by amanda

Yaaay!  Of course it’s being challenged, but hurrah for the Iowa Supreme Court – I’m not done reading the opinion, but so far, I LIKE.

Here is the opinion.

Here is the Des Moines Register Article.

Here is an awesome list of why gay marriage is totally wrong (not written by me).

1) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.

2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.

3) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven’t adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.

4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can’t marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.

5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britney Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.

6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn’t be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren’t full yet, and the world needs more children.

7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.

8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.

9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.

10) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a ferret has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.